On Worthiness

Someone’s inability to see your worth in the way that you need is not parallel nor indicative of your value. It doesn’t mean it won’t hurt. It doesn’t mean you won’t have to re-evaluate the relationship. But it also doesn’t mean you have to negotiate your currency of Self outside of you.

The truth is there is no quantifying your worth because that is a construct of the ego. Trying to measure your deservingness of Love or Belonging is as impossible as us landing on the sun without getting burned. The ego holds a bottomless pit of looking for the reasons, wanting to protect, and every which way to spin truths.

Coming home to yourself can look like:

1. Treating yourself in alignment with deep Honor even (especially) when you don’t “feel” worthy or want to

2. Actively recognizing the parts of you that need nurturance and what they feel like/sound like when projected outward - when you take responsibility for these parts, you are on the path to liberation

3. Forgiving yourself and honoring others when your rejected parts create misalignment and discord. Releasing the need to punish yourself and choosing compassion.

4. Grounding your body into the earth especially when your mind is active/survival mode is triggered and scanning for all the reasons you are (un)worthy

5. Releasing the mind from the responsibility to dictate your worth and shifting into living from a heart centered place that is connected to all that exists here, and beyond (notice how your mind maybe can’t comprehend that 😉)

We don’t need to look for permission to be our authentic Selves. For some, survival mode or safety has meant being outside of the body, so our nervous system needs realigning to what true, anchored safety actually feels like through conscious somatic practice.

Needing support and love that reflects our Truth is different than being reliant upon these sources. Loved ones offering gestures of care and reassurance is different than deriving our worthiness from a space of relentless need and desperation.

This is the path of freeing both yourself and those who love you from the burden of the insatiable need to be validated. This is the path of embodying your truest Self with such deep reverence for your own existence, it’s unmovable. This is the path of collecting all of the shattered pieces of you and returning them back to their wholeness in the shrine of your soul.  This is the path of the most beautiful devotion to Self.